Atone
October 1st 2025
Atone: to make amends…
I had a discussion a few weeks ago with two great friends, about, of all things, Joseph Conrad’s “The Heart of Darkness.” The story all comes to an intellectual and moral climax in the last words uttered by Kurtz: “The horror, the horror.”
Kurtz is talking about the horror that lies inside every man, the all too easy path to embrace evil. Most people know the story through the movie: “Apocalypse Now.” It’s perhaps of note that some people missed the implications of the telling of the story against the background of the war in Vietnam. Looked at from Kurtz’s perspective, the war wasn’t a unique horror, the horror was always there, in every man’s heart.
Over the past month or two I would suspect that most of us have had a few moments when we dwelled on evil… The horrible murder of a young woman on a subway train comes first to mind, as does the assassination of Charlie Kirk.
One of the remarkable developments in the wake of his killing was, of course, the tremendous spike in violence: the many cities on fire, the rioting, the looting…
Or, I should say, the complete absence of it.
There has not been, as far as I can discern, a single incident, not one, not in the United States, and not overseas, where he had quite a large following. Tens of millions of people who responded to violence - peacefully.
There’ve been a number of prominent folks that I recall, over the last 50 years or so, who were willing to engage in debate, to sit down and talk, as friends, to those with whom they did not agree. And yet, they would shake hands, smile, listen to each other… One of my favorite people was William F. Buckley, arguably the creator of modern conservative thought, and yet a look at his friends showed this amazing span of people, many of whom clearly did not agree with him. His show (Firing Line) celebrated his intellect and wit, and yet he gave those with opposing views the opportunity to debate him, and convince the audience.
There were others who also were willing to debate, calmly, to talk things out, to work with those who oppose them to bring clarity to our society. Certainly Martin Luther King did this. So did Daniel Patrick Moynahan. So did Ronald Reagan. Even Reagan’s major “foe” in Washington for the first 6 years of his presidency, Speaker of the House Tip O’Neill, was willing to sit and talk with Reagan. And while they were clearly political opponents, after Reagan was shot, Reagan woke one day in his hospital room, and Tip O’Neill was sitting beside the bed, praying the Rosary.
There is, of course, a single reason for that. It is the reason for Mrs. Kirk’s remarkable poise and her mercy; I suspect most of us are humbled by her remarkable mercy. Could I do that? I doubt it. I don't know and hope to never find out. And while Mr Kirk was a smart guy and an excellent speaker, he is not the reason for her strength. Her strength, the strength she shared with her husband, the strength shared by King and Moynihan and Buckley and Reagan, was, is, faith in God.
And it’s worth saying, particularly with October 2nd right around the corner (Yom Kippur) their faith was the faith of the Bible, the moral foundation of the Founding Fathers, the more foundation of our country - our country.
Charlie Kirk was willing to engage in debate - in friendly debate. People could disagree, but he would smile and shake hands. King, Buckley, Reagan, Moynihan - and there are others - were willing to debate, and in how they did it they inspired tens of millions. Kirk inspired them in such a manner that after this horrific event, there has not been one violent act by anyone using his murder as justification. It was the civil "civil discourse" that this country needs.
If you have found yourself on that side of the divide, wondering what can be done, what you can do, to bring us all together, quietly, peacefully, then wonderful, press on. You don’t need to agree with Mr Kirk at all, just so long as you agree with the approach, with the idea that we can talk, shake hands, as Americans, as God’s children.
If, on the other hand you find yourself glad for Kirk’s death, and hating - hating anyone: Kirk, a politician, a neighbor, a political foe, someone on TV you've never even met, you need to sit back and think about things. That hate isn't going to get you anything. Consider again that there has been no violence in response to his death - zero violence. That should tell you a great deal about the intellectual and emotional and spiritual divide in this country, and should make you ask yourself why you are on the particular side of that chasm. Why are you so agitated? Why are you on the side of hate? The dichotomy between the two sides should strike you; it should, in fact, grip you viscerally.
The hate that some seem to swim in won’t benefit them. Maybe the people who have poked and prodded others to hate, maybe they’ll benefit, at least for a short while from this hate, but not in the long run, and not in the next life certainly. And really not in the long run here. They won’t benefit and neither will those they have convinced to hate.
So, if you do find that you are hating - someone, anyone, maybe try opening a Bible. How hard can that be? Just a book; pick it up, flip it open, anywhere, start reading. If that’s too hard right now, start with just saying hello to the neighbor you “hate.” Maybe start simple, forgive an old friend you fell out with… Just try not to hate… Say thanks to God for the heart that beats in your chest and the opportunity to smile at a neighbor and hope for a better world… Maybe on the 2nd… the Day of Atonement...